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Women, are we our own worst enemies???


I love woman, I grew up with some amazing ones in my life my my Mum, my 3 sisters, 2 Grandma’s, 3 favourite Aunts and established early on a group of life long friends. I now have a bevy of amazing nieces all of whom I am very proud.

Women make great friends and often tend to keep that same group for a life time to support them through all the stages of life.

But why is it that my worst bosses were always women? Woman in the workforce are not often supportive of each other, in my experience and in your teens the people most likely to be mean to you are women. Women  are far more likely to criticise the way you look and be really mean about it than men. It is usually the women in the toilets calling others girls a slut long before the boys do.

The other night on ABC Q&A my favourite quote was from when discussing whether the world would be a better place if there were more woman in leadership. “KAY HYMOWITZ: Well, I do believe actually in inherent differences but I also think that it’s very difficult to imagine a world where women are all good and men are all bad and that will solve the problem or if we just get more women. I don’t know. I went to junior high school and that’s not what I remember.” This made me laugh.

Why is it that with the vast array of women who have achieved amazing things like Fiona Wood the Burns specialist, Ela Bhatt a lawyer who is widely recognised as one of the world’s most remarkable pioneers and entrepreneurial forces in grassroots development, Jane Addams (September 6, 1860 – May 21, 1935)  the first American woman to be awarded the Nobel Peace Prize, Aung San Suu Kyi from Burma,I could go on and on, are not idolised.  Why is it that the 2 most influential women in the world are Beyonce and Kim Kardashian. Don’t get me wrong, Good Luck to these gals, but why is it that woman who are can sing or just look good and have really done nothing much to contribute to our society. why is it that these are the role models our young girls are following??

With the award of the Nobel Peace Prize today to three women: Ellen Johnson Sirleaf, President of Liberia; Leymah Gbowee, Liberian Peace Activist; and Yemeni journalist Karman, that percentage remained virtually unchanged – only 44 of the 807 Nobel Laureates awarded the prize since 1901 have been women.

It is a funny that there are more women leaders in Asian Countries where the cultural position of women is not great, compared to the western world.

Australia had it’s first woman Prime Minister and whilst I didn’t like her politics I hated that most commentaries were about the way she looked.

The vastly held opinions is that once a woman does get to the top because she is so rare, she has to adapt to her surroundings by becoming more like the men that surround her to continue to succeed. My opinion is that if all the women below her supported her she would feel far less vulnerable.

I can remember going to a school to speak about Career Day about 5 years ago and after my speech asking the girls what they wanted to do with their lives. I was horrified and shocked to hear over 60% of them say “Marry a Rich Man”.

I know there have recently been a few Girl Power Disney releases, but in the majority of fairy tales and movies we are shown our role is to search and be rescued by a Prince Charming, If you look at toys for girls there are still toy kitchens, irons, makeup kits and craft kits.  Where are our Trucks?? 🙂

We support each other so well as friends lets start looking for real role models that are amazing. I know the generations today are ruled by online marketing but you mothers with teenagers should be encouraging your daughters to have some idols with a broader scope in life than just the popular ones.

About Carmel (38 Articles)
Carmel Is a Highly qualified IT Consultant who has lived and worked all over the world. She has a wealth of life experience

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